Christmas is the time to celebrate. It's also the time that a lot of people find difficult (for a variety of reasons). So I thought this was a good opportunity to look at when life hands us lemons and how we can use them to make lemonade. To that effect, I'll use some of my negative experiences, and show you how I turned them into positives. Granted, not everything worked out the way I wanted, but I can at least appreciate the good places they can lead me to. By doing this, I hope you can look deeper into your situation and find the light that guides you to a better Christmas.
Let's take a look at my top fails this year and how they became my positives:
1) My agent stopped representing my age category, so I needed to go on another agent hunt. Yes,. this bites. Hard. However, it also taught me two things: 1) Resilience and persistence. Never get lazy. Know that things can change and that you must keep working hard all the time. 2) I have another chance at seeking out an agent who will gel with me. If I can get one agent, I feel better that I can find another. This is my positive.
2) My epilepsy blipped, and I started having stronger verbal ticks and noises. Now I've had to add a third medication. I have 15 days to try it and see if it's going to work for me. Yes, that sucks. But the positive? I have a neurologist that is on my side, helping me through this. My friends are supportive. My family is right behind me. And my partner is the biggest pillar of support. I am reminded by this blip in my health of the people who matter and the people who care. I realize how blessed I am.
3) I've been diagnosed with a neurogenic bladder (linked to my epilepsy). Now I know why I pee 20 times a night (yes, you probably didn't want that knowledge). However, now I can use my new meds to help fix that and get back to a regular sleeping pattern! Hurrah!
4) I have to go for back surgery, as my spine has gone a bit squiffy. Am I frightened? Like a big baby, I am. Am I positive? Yes. It could solve my walking issues and allow me to live my life freely again.
5) My joy of flying was crushed by a terrible flight. I loved flying. Loved it. Now I am terrified of it. The positive? I've learned that things can change and that it's okay to be vulnerable (a huge issue for me, and it extends to this post. Vulnerable feels weak to me, and this flying thing is beginning to teach me it's not. I'm a work in progress about this bit). However, it's also taught me empathy for those who have the same fears. It's helped me understand just how brave I can be when I do step on a plane. It helps teach me what my spirit can do.
So there you have it. Those are 5 things that might not mean anything to anyone other than me, but they are five things that I am looking back at during the Christmas holidays, thinking "I did this", "I got through that", "I learned", and that, for me, is what celebrating Christmas is about - appreciating what you have been given, good and bad.
Merry Christmas to you all, and may you all find the light in your lives!
Wednesday, 21 December 2016
Fiona McLaren is a displaced Scot living on the sunny island of Cyprus. She's an author, scriptwriter, and editor. She works alongside Cornerstones Literary Consultancy U.S., and also takes on freelance editorial work. The most important things in her life are her boys, her family, and her partner...and lots and lots of books! She's represented by the wonderful literary agent Maura Kye-Casella at Don Congdon Associates.